I wanted to explain the picture I used in my last post, O is for One Perfect Moment, #AtoZChallenge.
I went home for Christmas this winter thinking it would be the last time I saw my mom. My flight back to California was ridiculously early so I had to say goodbye the night before. I asked my dad to tell me when it was time to say goodnight and he let me know when Mom was finally ready to go to bed. I went to her and tried to stay really happy and positive, giving her a hug and saying goodnight. It was quick because I didn’t want to think too hard about the situation, but as soon as I left the room I realized I forgot to tell her I loved her.
I had to go back in, I knew I needed to tell her in person because it might be the last opportunity I got to do so. My sister came in after and while I was hugging my mom on one side, my dad hugged her on the other side and she took this perfect picture. In it we all have genuine smiles. We are holding onto each other and although the practical reason is we have to hold on to Mom to help her keep her balance, in the picture it just looks like a warm embrace (which it also was). When I look at the picture I can’t tell my mom has Alzheimer’s. I see happiness, love, family. That’s why I was inspired to write the poem that I did.
I don’t like to talk about perfection, because I think it’s generally an unobtainable and unrealistic goal. I see this picture though, and it really is one perfect moment.
A beautiful moment Serena and a beautiful photograph – there is so much love in all your eyes 💖 xxx
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Thank you💕
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So special. *Hugs*
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Thank-you for sharing your story. It’s a lovely picture.
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Love the picture, you’re right – a perfect moment and I am so glad you shared the story behind the picture 🙂 xx
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I think we cannot deliberately make a perfect moment, but I know, just as you do, that sometimes everything comes together to allow a perfect moment, a perfect smile, the perfect word, a perfect memory. We cherish them as the treasures they are. ❤
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Sweetheart, I cry for you. I give you many warm virtual hugs.
Great idea, A to Z. Good therapy.
Sorry to have been absent lately – getting my book out (Chasing a Butterfly-A journey in poems of love and loss to acceptance {now out and available} . which was my writing way of coping with the same thing – with my wife, now sadly gone).
Do keep writing and loving. I am with you in spirit.
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I’m truly sorry for your loss. I can only imagine what that feels like and what my own dad must be going through. I would love to check out your book, I think it helps to read from people who share similar experiences. Where might I be able to find it? Thank you for reading and supporting, I really appreciate it.
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Hi Serena – I did reply, but I don’t see it here. Did you get it?
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I did! I went hiking yesterday so I got it, but didn’t get a chance to reply. I’m at work now, but I’ll take a look on Amazon when I get home today!
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Don’t worry about it. It just wasn’t showing up at my end. Stale page, maybe. Thanks Serena.
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Dear Serena,
Thank you. How would you like to share some of your stuff with me on my blog as a guest blogger?
Depending how long it is, the whole alphabet? Or a to m, then another when you’re finished, n to z?
You can find my book on Amazon: type in Chasing a Butterfly by H. W. Bryce and it should pop up.
You can also order it from the printer/publisher: friesenpress.com/bookstore, and type in as above.
OR: try clicking here:
Blogger at: http://hwbrycewrites.com
Order Chasing a Butterfly at:
http:www//.friesenpress.com/bookstore/title/119734000015361954
Note: Partial proceeds to Alzheimer’s Society.
Poet published in anthologies
Poetry Judge at 6th Rabindrinath Tagore Awards International 2016
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I would be honored to be a guest blogger! I have a random assortment of topics, would you like me to just sort out the stuff I write on Alzheimer’s/my mom? I found your book, I’ll let you know when I get a chance to read it!
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Yes, that is my topic. Your photo of you and mom and dad and the P is For (?) really moved me. Thank you very much.
Have I told you about the myalzteam.com
site for caregivers?
I still go there, though not as often as when my Ann was still with me.
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I think you had mentioned it way back when, but I’ve been slightly in denial I think. I might be ready to confront this. It would be good to start looking into healthy support systems.
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Hi Serena. could you send me your email please|? i would like to cor-ordinate the guest spot. Mine is hwbryce@gmail.com. thanks.
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Just emailed you!
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Sorry, the friesen link doesn’t seem to take; couldn’t find a place to hyperlink it.
Perhaps just best to search for friesenpress.com/bookstore and type in the title…
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